Jina was the only child of her parents. As close to them as she was with her husband & her 5 year old kid. Her journey from being a kid herself to a wife & then to a mother demanded at every step to be selfless. She knew at every step that she is letting things go which she always wanted the most. But every step cajoled her that its after all for the betterment of herself & her family..
Today she was disappointed with her life. She wanted to do something different. Well, finally she got this opportunity .
Jina : You know they are coming.
Sheila : Now who ? Please I don’t want you to get busy again entertaining other people.
Jina (interrupting) Weirdo …I am talking about my favourite band Guns and Roses .They are in London and guess what I managed a ticket from Gig.com
Sheila : Kewl.. But how come the ever buzeee Jina has found the time to bloody buy a ticket as well. How about your kid ? How about your husband’s dinner ?
Jina… Well I have thought about it all. I’ m gonna leave Jinny with Chowdhary Aunty ( that’s the only benefit of being a house wife. You can make contacts (well, with your neighbouring Aunties) J and Aamir says he is off for a party ( first time when I don’t feel bad that he is out alone for a so called bachelor party )
This was the first step in Jina’s life & my first learning ….that yes we can really manage things.. I.e. if we really wanted to.
The gig was at O2 , one of my favourite theatres in London. Sweet child o mine, paradise city. and to my surprise show was opened by none other than our very own Indian band Parikrama..oh I just loved “ But it rained…” We both were in full swing..I wanted her to be the same enjoying-with-carefree-attitude Jina everyday as she was today ..I could to see a similar future for myself & not the one which she had showed me till now & probably that was what was keeping me away from getting married till now. I wanted to do something for her. May be to make me see my future even better.
Next day itself we applied to all the job portals in London.. More than that, foremost made arrangements of Crèche for jinny . Aamir of course was quite understanding.. We 3 talked about if a new job would need a house change ? What all Jina needed to brush on before she appears for the interview. Does she need to take any training for stress management.
That was the second learning for me,. In the process of helping her I was helping myself as well. Wasn’t I !!! From dressing to managing people. From organizing sessions to take care of 5 year old kid ( at times :-))
1 month of effort and finally it materialized to our luck very much near the place where they currently stay . She was a happy girl .. And me ..Yes.. I too was ..After all I wasn’t any more afraid of marriages.. and the responsibilities there after..
Jina helped me thoroughly for my marriage preparations.. right from the dress I need to wear for my engagement, to every meeting I had with BF ( come on “Yes you look great “ is required for that confidence)
My third learning …. Not all efforts go waste.. Newton’s third rule definitely applies here as well. I myself found the happiness which I wanted to actually give her.